The Woman's Point of View
While Janine did enjoy making out with Joe, he did not take it upon himself to slow down the sexual escalation and remain in the comfort building stage. She truly did wish see him again, but only in the moment. When Joe called the next day, Janine wasn't in the same aroused emotional state as the night before. Due to cultural programming she felt a little guilty for doing what she did with someone she didn't really know. She knew the only reason Joe even called was to continue what was now making her feel uncomfortable just thinking about. If she did see him again. she didn't know how he would behave. Would he grope her and make her feel even more uncomfortable? She just didn't know him well enough to trust his future actions. Being one to indulge in her emotions, she allowed her emotions to once again make her decisions. Uncomfortable even talking to him on the phone, Janine is cold to him and lies, saying she's too busy to talk
When the confused Joe tried to change her mind, Janine took this as an attempt to manipulate her. She just didn't want to be pressured into having sex with someone she didn't feel comfortable and safe with, especially when she was not even aroused.
Joe was hard-pressed to change her emotional state on the phone. For all he knew at the time, with so many elements out of his control. Janine may have just had a fight with her room mate or just changed the kitty litter box. Over the next week or two, every time he left a message, her feelings of discomfort grew. She has no intention of ever seeing this guy again.
Joe shouldn't blame Janine for her stringing him along After all, it was he who ultimately designed this situation by not staying in the comfort stage for an appropriate length of time.
As hand holding escalates to kissing (more on how to perform Mystery's kiss tactic later), you will quickly approach a point of no return in which buyer's remorse is likely.
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