A woman's S and R value can be rated almost purely based on her looks. That is a ternble thing to say. But it's not denigration — it's a statement of fact. Men are programmed to inseminate as many pretty women as possible. Thus a woman's sexual value to a man can be easily determined by her physical appearance.
Men often employ a decimal rating system, ranging from 1 to 10, with a 7 being a cute girl and a 10 being a supermodel. It may seem uncouth to refer to a woman as a number, such as a 5 or a 9. But the truth is that woman of different ratings do behave differently, to a great degree. And furthermore, men and women will also respond differently to other people based on perception of their relative difference in social status. This prejudice is a fundamental human behavior — it's hardwired.
Here is one example of responding based on social status: Seeking rapport is often an easy way to open a conversation with a set of 5s, but will only get you blown out with a set of 10s. Whereas being cocky and challenging, which 9s and 10s absolutely love, will often cause a 4 or 5 to react in a nasty way.
The Mystery Method, with its emphasis on negs, group theory, and preselection,
is geared towards attracting 10s. In fact, you may have to tone down these aspects of your game if you are dealing with a lesser-caliber woman, otherwise she may reject you in order to protect her own ego. It's easier for her to take the immediate ego boost of shooting down a guy, rather than risk being rejected by one whom she doesn't feel qualified for in the first place.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Pick Up Artist VH1 - Female Intuition
Intuition over Analysis
Women follow their intuition, so believe your own bullshit. For example, if she wants to determine whether or not you are being real with her, she won't logically analyze what you said for inconsistency. Instead, she'll look to you to see if you seem congruent with what you are saying. (Are you?)
Another example of female intuition
Women often look for the "real meaning" behind what you say. For example, if you tell a story about your "friend-" she will usually assume that you are actually talking about yourself. This can be useful when the story demonstrates higher value. For example, if you don't want to look like a braggart, you could say, "My friend hooked up with this amazing girl and they had wild sex all weekend..."
On the flipside, if you want her to believe that the story really is about someone else (like if it demonstrates lower value) then use a specific name. For example, "My friend Craig woke up last weekend with a condom in his ass and..."
Shell assume you really are talking about someone else if you give him a name.
Women follow their intuition, so believe your own bullshit. For example, if she wants to determine whether or not you are being real with her, she won't logically analyze what you said for inconsistency. Instead, she'll look to you to see if you seem congruent with what you are saying. (Are you?)
Another example of female intuition
Women often look for the "real meaning" behind what you say. For example, if you tell a story about your "friend-" she will usually assume that you are actually talking about yourself. This can be useful when the story demonstrates higher value. For example, if you don't want to look like a braggart, you could say, "My friend hooked up with this amazing girl and they had wild sex all weekend..."
On the flipside, if you want her to believe that the story really is about someone else (like if it demonstrates lower value) then use a specific name. For example, "My friend Craig woke up last weekend with a condom in his ass and..."
Shell assume you really are talking about someone else if you give him a name.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Pick Up Artist VH1 - When she says, "not here," you say, "I understand."
When she says, "not here," you say, "I understand."
A woman's reputation directly influences her social status. This is why women are easier to get into bed when they are on vacation — they are more likely to indulge in an adventure for which they trust there are no social consequences. This is also why women are appreciative of men who understand and practice discretion.
A venusian artist will never brag about his sexual conquests. If you do, not only will it eventually get back to her, but any other woman who hears it will also be on notice that sexual relations with you carry social consequences. So, for example, when you obtain a phone number from a woman, don't walk straight over to your friends and be seen high-fiving them enthusiastically.
A woman's reputation directly influences her social status. This is why women are easier to get into bed when they are on vacation — they are more likely to indulge in an adventure for which they trust there are no social consequences. This is also why women are appreciative of men who understand and practice discretion.
A venusian artist will never brag about his sexual conquests. If you do, not only will it eventually get back to her, but any other woman who hears it will also be on notice that sexual relations with you carry social consequences. So, for example, when you obtain a phone number from a woman, don't walk straight over to your friends and be seen high-fiving them enthusiastically.
Friday, August 17, 2007
Pick Up Artist VH1 - Fool's Mate
In the game of chess, it is possible to win in only four moves. This gambit is called fool's mate. Winning with speed via fool's mate does not however make you a chess champion. If anything, it only demonstrates your opponent's inexperience. An experienced chess player will not even attempt a fast fool's mate for, if the opponent doesn't take the bait, he leaves the player in a weak position. Similarly, while it is possible to seduce with speed, it is much less probable on a woman who is socially experienced. In the venusian arts, we refer to 'seduction first' tactics as fool's mate for its metaphorical similarity. Instead, both chess champions and venusian artists prefer to play a solid game.
Fool's mate can work in some situations that may be acceptable to you, such as on drunk girls and those who have a propensity towards having one night stands. Just don't let it be your only ''winning move."
Fool's mate can work in some situations that may be acceptable to you, such as on drunk girls and those who have a propensity towards having one night stands. Just don't let it be your only ''winning move."
Monday, August 13, 2007
Pick Up Artist VH1 - Congruence Tests
Congruence Tests
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex — so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers — instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted. (Chapter 6 explains how to maintain control of the frame and pass her tests.)
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex — so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers — instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted. (Chapter 6 explains how to maintain control of the frame and pass her tests.)
Thursday, August 9, 2007
Pick Up Artist VH1 - Plausible deniability - Act with moxie
Plausible deniability
She will never do anything during the pickup that makes her feel responsible for what is going down. To whatever degree she feels responsible, her ASD will be activated.
Thus she has a need for plausible deniability. For example, if you were to say to her, "Hey, let's go back to my place and have sex," she will have to say no, even though she wants to say yes, because saying yes would make her responsible for what is happening— which she can never do.
But if instead YOU were to say, "Hey, let's stop by my place on the way to that party — I have to show you mv tropical fish." Well, she now has an excuse and plausible deniability to stop by your place and then — oopsie— have sex with you. "One thing led to another..."
This is why serendipity is so romantic. After all, if it was meant to be, then how can it be her fault? Who is she to deny Fate?
Act with moxie
Moxie means inventive courage. The venusian artist must always be leading
the interaction to where he wants it to go. This is partly due to the fact that he has no choice, since the woman won't take any responsibility for what is happening.
For example, it is necessary to keep things interesting during the opening phase of the game. If you don't make the conversation interesting, then she will raise boring topics — and then she will feel bored and blame it on you.
It's not fair, right? This pattern of behavior can be maddening. But the truth is, if she feels bored around you but excited around other guys, then why should she waste her time on you?
Make tilings happen. Take full responsibility for your shared experience with her. It is your job to act with moxie — to move from phase to phase, to meet the objectives of each phase, to escalate, to venue change, and so on. The rest of this book will explain exactly how to do these tilings.
She will never do anything during the pickup that makes her feel responsible for what is going down. To whatever degree she feels responsible, her ASD will be activated.
Thus she has a need for plausible deniability. For example, if you were to say to her, "Hey, let's go back to my place and have sex," she will have to say no, even though she wants to say yes, because saying yes would make her responsible for what is happening— which she can never do.
But if instead YOU were to say, "Hey, let's stop by my place on the way to that party — I have to show you mv tropical fish." Well, she now has an excuse and plausible deniability to stop by your place and then — oopsie— have sex with you. "One thing led to another..."
This is why serendipity is so romantic. After all, if it was meant to be, then how can it be her fault? Who is she to deny Fate?
Act with moxie
Moxie means inventive courage. The venusian artist must always be leading
the interaction to where he wants it to go. This is partly due to the fact that he has no choice, since the woman won't take any responsibility for what is happening.
For example, it is necessary to keep things interesting during the opening phase of the game. If you don't make the conversation interesting, then she will raise boring topics — and then she will feel bored and blame it on you.
It's not fair, right? This pattern of behavior can be maddening. But the truth is, if she feels bored around you but excited around other guys, then why should she waste her time on you?
Make tilings happen. Take full responsibility for your shared experience with her. It is your job to act with moxie — to move from phase to phase, to meet the objectives of each phase, to escalate, to venue change, and so on. The rest of this book will explain exactly how to do these tilings.
Friday, August 3, 2007
Pick Up Artist vh1 - Congruence Tests
Pick Up Artist vh1 - Congruence Tests
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex — so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers — instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted.
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A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex — so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers — instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted.
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Pick Up Artist vh1 - Rejection and Approach Anxiety
Pick Up Artist vh1 - Rejection and Approach Anxiety
Pick Up Artist vh1 - Rejection and Approach Anxiety
Logically, rejection causes us no harm. But emotionally, rejection can be a punishing experience. To understand this, we must look at the ancient environment for which we were designed.
In a tribal group, there will be some small number of available women of breeding age. When a man approaches one, he risks rejection, and if that happens, all the other women will know, which will diminish his value in their eyes — maybe to the point where none of the women will mate with him. This is called preselection — women look for social validation of their choices. A suitor who is preselected will be more attractive, whereas a man who has been rejected will be less so.
Another factor regarding approach anxiety is the possibility that she may already be taken, in which case there is a component of real, physical danger to any male who approaches her. For all these reasons and more, men are naturally selected to experience approach anxiety. Logically, of course, modern society fixes these problems. If I am rejected, I can simply go to another part of the bar, or leave the bar entirely. I will probably never see any of those people again. But my emotions don't know that. My emotions are trying to do what's best for me.
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